Abusive relationships can be found everywhere and isn’t only associated with addition – however, opiate, drug and heroin addiction is often a breeding ground for abuse in relationships. And it needs to be stopped.
When most people think about an abusive relationship, physical abuse typically comes to mind. And while there is no doubt that abuse can be physical, it can also be mental, emotional and verbal. Sexual abuse is often looked at as an entity that exists outside of a marriage or boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. However, it is not “ok” to force your significant other to have sex.
Below, we discuss several forms of abuse and how it relates to drug and heroin addiction.
Physical and Sexual Abuse
Hitting, pushing, shoving, punching, kicking, scratching, etc. are a just a few examples of physical abuse. If you happen to be in a relationship where you are being bullied, beaten up and/or battered, it’s time to leave. Many women (and men as well) think their spouse or significant other will change and while change is possible, it’s not likely and as a result, the victim (the one being abused) can and often does get hurt. It often starts out light but gets progressively worse, physical marks are left and before too long, hospital visits become the norm…until that one day when the abuse may become so violent that it may kill you.
Physical abuse is not discriminatory by gender. Some think that only men can be abusers and because women are the “weaker sex” (physically) that it’s “ok” for them to hit and abuse their man. Well guess what? This is not the case. The law protects both women and men from physical abuse and any woman who physically abuses a man is just a liable as a man who abuses a woman. Physical abuse where men are the victims appears not as common simply because it’s not as commonly reported. According to a national study funded by the Centers for Disease Control and U.S. Department of Justice, more men than women were victims of intimate partner physical violence in a one year period. In 2011, 5,365,000 men and 4,741,000 women were victims of intimate partner physical violence (IPV).
Any man or woman who is the victim of physical abuse should separate from their significant other or spouse. Perhaps reconciliation can occur in time if the abuser gets help and proper treatment however nobody deserves to be abused.
Sexual Abuse is Physical Abuse
Some people mistakenly think that sexual abuse doesn’t and can’t exist within a marriage or romantic relationship. It can. No means no and men can still be found guilty of raping their wives (and vice versa). Romantic relationships especially marriage is about mutual love and respect for one another. If you are concerned that your spouse doesn’t want sex as much as they did, forcing yourself on them is not acceptable. Talk about it with your spouse respectfully and if that’s not changing things, bring up the possibility of marriage, relationship or sexual counseling. The option to leave the relationship and find one that’s more satisfying is always there as well. But forcing yourself on your spouse is physical abuse and against the law.
Emotional / Mental / Verbal Abuse
Verbally berating or even neglecting your spouse or significant other is also a form of abuse. While it may be harder to prove and doesn’t necessarily violate any laws, neglect and verbal lashing out will negatively affect the relationship and possibly leave it destitute. Paying attention to your spouse, working to meet their needs and speaking respectfully to your spouse will likely cultivate a healthy, loving, lasting relationship. How we treat our spouses/significant others is often a cause for reduced sex in a relationship as well. Thus, you’d be surprised what a little TLC (tender, loving care) will do to ignite a sexual fire and generate passion.
Addiction Breeds Violence
Addiction is a disease of the brain and at the onset of addiction, the brain is changed in at least 4 major ways. Learn more about How Addiction Affects the Brain. Thus, people suffering from active addiction are simply not the same person. They are only satisfied when they’ve recently indulged in heroin and/or their drug/activity of choice. Those suffering from addiction or more moody, more easily angered and will do just about anything to obtain heroin and/or their drug of choice if it’s not easily accessible to them for some reason.. Even non-violent people may become abusive if they can’t obtain immediate access to their drug when they “need” it. A “need” becomes evident when the “high” effect has worn off and/or fear of withdrawal sets in.
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Written and Published By,
William – Publisher and Founder of Kill the Heroin Epidemic Nationwide™
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