The holidays, such as Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and others earlier in the year are difficult times for people in addiction treatment or recovery. Simply put, emotions pour out from the heart and emotions are what brought individuals to drugs and alcohol in the first place. Perhaps it was the loss of a child, sibling, parent, etc. Perhaps it was a relational death such as a romantic break-up or a separation between best friends. Thus, we thought this article would be a guide to help people in this position get through Christmas and the holidays without using drugs and alcohol. Here are a few simple thoughts that can make the holiday experience a little more tolerable.
For most people, the weeks between Thanksgiving and the New Year are a special time of joy and celebration. Yet, it can be an extremely difficult and stressful time for those who are just beginning to recover from drug addiction or alcoholism. Spending the holidays in a shelter or residential recovery program is just as hard. Below are some tips on surviving the holidays without reverting back to using drugs or alcohol.
7 Tips for Surviving and even Enjoying the Holidays Without Using Drugs or Alcohol
1. Remember the spiritual significance of the holidays – This time of year is a major commercial event for America’s retailers. It is also a time for special celebrations of family and goodwill. Still, we must remember that “Jesus is the Reason for the Season”. Above all else, we are celebrating God’s sending of His only Son to be our Savior and Redeemer. Keeping Christmas as a spiritual celebration puts all of our other expectations for the holiday season in proper perspective.
2. Don’t isolate – The holidays can be the loneliest time of the year for the recovering addict. On one hand, people are reminded of all the relationships they’ve messed up. Some will spend Christmas haunted by memories of loved ones and friends they’ve alienated with destructive and manipulative behavior. People know, too, if they want to keep their sobriety, they must avoid people who are still using alcohol and drugs. What’s the solution? Take advantage of the new sober acquaintances God has brought their way. Reach out to those around them and use this holiday seasons as a special opportunity to get to know them better.
3. Use the holidays as a special opportunity for making amends – Instead of dwelling on the failed relationships of their life, make a list of those people and consider ways to reconnect with them. While it is not always possible to make amends to all of them, there are probably a few of them, especially family members. Chance are some of them who would consider hearing from people in recovery a special gift this holiday season. Talk to a counselor or sponsor about this and get their input on taking this important step in each individual’s recovery process.
4. Give gifts from the heart – It’s easy to feel a load of guilt and shame about not having resources to give presents and other tokens of love. There are other types of “gifts” that can be just as meaningful: a simple card (even homemade) , a phone call or visit, lending a helping hand with a special project. There is a virtually an unlimited number of ways to show people compassion and that cash is not a necessity anymore. Be creative.
5. Share your feelings – The holidays can bring back a host of confusing feelings and memories. Sometimes they’re tempted to dwell on “good times” that involved drinking and drug use. For some, this time of year provokes painful childhood memories if they grew up in a troubled home. Others experience loads of stress, disappointment, and loneliness during the holidays. The worst thing to do is to keep all these feelings bottled up inside. Find trusted sober friends and support groups where they can share what is going on within them. This is a sure fire way to keep them in perspective and work through all these emotions in constructive and healthy ways.
6. Find healthy ways to celebrate the season – For some of those in addiction recovery, it’s hard to imagine a Christmas or New Year’s Eve without alcohol and drugs. But, for newly sober people, this time of year can be a chance to rediscover how to have fun without mind-altering chemicals. Take a few moments to find out what is happening in the church and what other Christian and sobriety-based events are happening in your community – and participate in them!
7. Have realistic expectations – Most post-holiday disappointments are the result of expecting too much. Keeping Christmas as primarily a spiritual celebration also keeps our expectation in reality, too. We may find this holiday season is not the exciting and joyous experience others seem to make it out to be. Maybe no one seemed to have reached out in any special way. Maybe individuals in addiction recovery did not handle all the stress of the holidays as they would have liked to. So what? Maybe making it through the holidays without using drugs or alcohol was the most significant thing they did. Yet, this, in itself, is a major accomplishment.
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Written by William Charles and Joann Miller, Owner and Publisher and Blogger for Kill the Heroin Epidemic Nationwide™, Heroin News, and the National Alliance of Addiction Treatment Centers (NAATC)
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